✦ The Bitch Academy ✦
Everyone Thinks You’re Fine
Because you’ve never given them a reason not to.
You said yes again before you checked whether you wanted to. You rearranged your week around someone who didn’t have to ask twice. From the outside you’re reliable, easy to work with, the one who handles it. Underneath that, there’s a woman with opinions and appetites who hasn’t been out in years, and she’s still in there.
It’s time to unlearn nice and reclaim real.
“When did what I want stop counting?”
You don’t ask it out loud. You ask it in the driveway with the engine off, and then you go inside and make dinner.
This Is For You If
Nobody’s asking anything unreasonable.
You’re just never in the room.
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You agree to things before you’ve checked whether you want them. By the time you notice you didn’t want it, you’ve already made it work, and nobody has any reason to think otherwise.
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You can hold your ground at work and lose it completely at home, or the reverse. There’s one room where you can’t say what you want out loud, and you know exactly which one it is.
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You’ve read the books and done what people recommend. It didn’t touch this, because the problem isn’t that you’re depleted. It’s that your own preference stopped being a factor and you adjusted around it.
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You don’t need another system. You need someone who names what you’re doing accurately, and a room full of women who recognize it immediately.
Two Ways In
Join the room,
or talk to me first.
Most women come in through the Academy and start counting themselves in the first week. Some want a conversation first, and that’s what a Heart-to-Heart is for.
The Room · $25/month
The Bitch Academy
$25 a month · no term, cancel anytime
A working community of women who are done coming last. You get one exercise a week built for ten minutes and built to be kept, a live room once a month where each woman reports one thing she did, and your own self-worth score tracked over time in your own handwriting.
Nobody in here is being fixed. You’re here to stop disappearing.
Hosted on Skool · Free tier available
Join the AcademyFirst Step · Free
A Heart-to-Heart
45 minutes · No charge
One conversation about what’s actually going on. I’ll tell you what I see, precisely, and you’ll leave knowing what you’re dealing with.
By the end you’ll know whether the Academy is your next move. If something else is, I’ll tell you what.
· 45 min · Limited availability
Book a Heart-to-HeartThe Method
You don’t need to add anything.
You need to put things down.
Everything else in this field asks you to add. More practices, more accountability, more courage, more of yourself handed over to something. This works the other way.
You were handed a deal early. Be agreeable, be accommodating, come last, and you’ll be safe and you’ll belong. You held up your end of it for decades. The work here is putting it down, one piece at a time, and finding out what’s still yours underneath.
Start Here
Forty-five minutes.
No charge.
Bring what you’ve been carrying around and haven’t said out loud. I’ll tell you exactly what I see and what I’d do about it. If the Academy is the right room for you, you’ll know by the end of the call. If it isn’t, I’ll tell you that too, and you’ll still leave with something you can use.
You’re booking time with me directly, not with an automated sequence.
Karen
Spiezz
Founder, The Bitch Academy
Host, Second Wind Women
Karen was a working creative who moved from making art jewelry into a long list of decisions that all seemed practical at the time: a philosophy masters, web development, arts administration, even a stretch running a housecleaning company. Running through every one of them was a question she couldn’t put down. What would I be doing if I weren’t so busy protecting the feelings of everyone around me?
The answer came from putting things down instead of taking more on. It didn’t come from another round of journaling, yoga, and reading the right books.
The Bitch Academy is what she built after years of keeping ‘the Good Girl Contract’. It’s for the woman who’s excellent at her job, dependable to everyone around her, and no longer able to say what she wants without a business case for it. The work is direct, the naming is precise, and the room is full of women who recognize each other on sight.
She’s also the host of Second Wind Women, a podcast for women in creative and entrepreneurial pivots.
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